Gratitude is the force that brings us closer to our goals. That’s why it’s important to wake up every day with a grateful heart and to say thank you, even when we don’t necessarily feel thankful for our current situation.
Every day new challenges arise, but how we overcome those challenges is what defines us. How we deal with a struggle in our own minds is more important than the struggle itself. It can be extremely challenging to feel grateful when it seems like no matter what you do you can’t win. No matter how hard you try you keep failing. Maybe you are asking yourself right now, “how am I supposed to feel grateful for anything when I have no job or no money, or just lost someone I love? Tell me how am I supposed to feel grateful when I have all of these bad things happening to me”. Well, it’s important to remember 2 things;
1. There is a silver lining in everything, you just have to find it.
You have to live your life with this mindset if you are ever going to find happiness in the darkest places. There is light in every shadow and there is always a silver lining to be found in a negative situation. Maybe it is a lesson you learned, a challenge you had the opportunity to overcome, a chance to grow and become better and stronger. I don’t know what your silver lining is, only you know that. The one thing I do know is that it is there and you will find it if you look.
2. The only way to bring the positivity back into your life is through gratitude.
Now, I understand that trying to be grateful for a shitty situation is not an easy task. You are hearing it from the horse’s mouth. This blog is called She is so Lucky as an irony because there are times when I genuinely felt like the unluckiest person in the world.
I’ve had my runs where it is just one thing after another and it feels like there is no hope. I’ve broken down on my hands and knees wondering why everything bad has to happen to me. I have had the worst “luck” a person could ever imagine. Things that were so out of my control I couldn’t believe they could be anything else but bad luck.
When I run into these situations, after I’ve picked myself up off the ground, I take responsibility. I take responsibility for my actions and I say how thankful I am that I can come out of a situation like this better than I was before. I say that I am thankful I learned my lesson, or I am thankful that it’s finally over. Whatever it is, I find a way to feel grateful.
If you’ve been where I’ve been and have felt so down that gratitude seems nearly impossible. Try some simple strategies to pull yourself back up and be thankful for another day
Use these 3 strategies to wake up feeling #blessed:
#1. The second you open your eyes think about the one thing that makes you the happiest. Don‘t let yourself think about anything but that 1 thing. Do not let your mind wander to the challenges you are anticipating facing, the hard conversations you’re going to have, or anything else that will make you feel anything but grateful. Focus your mind on something that makes you completely and utterly happy and doesn’t think about anything else.
#2 Set your intentions. What are your intentions for the day? Not your plans, not your challenges, but your intentions. Do you intend to have a good day? What will make today a good day for you? What does the perfect day look like? Visualize yourself having the best day ever. Laughing with your coworkers, having a great lunch, coming home to a wonderful boyfriend, or accomplishing a goal. Set your intentions and tell yourself that you are going to enjoy the day. Tell yourself this before you even leave the house and remind yourself all day what your intentions are.
#3 Remember it is a choice, not a sentence. Being miserable is a choice, wallow in your misery is a choice, feeling blessed is a choice. You are the only person that has the power over your emotions. DO not give that power to anyone else. Do not allow anyone to ruin your state of mind. Allowing someone to have so much control over you that they can ruin your day gives them more power than they deserve. I don’t know what you are going through, but I know you are strong enough to go through it and come out on the other side all the better for it.