I know how hard it is to try and think positively all the time. Some might even say it’s impossible. I’m not saying you should never have a negative thought, but you should at least have power over them and be able to identify when you’re getting into a pattern of negative thinking.
This has been especially challenging for me this week. I’m usually pretty good at not letting myself go there. I almost couldn’t help myself though. I got on the complain train and had such a tough time reigning the negativity in. It is so easy to be cynical about things and much harder to be an optimist. The biggest problem I have is worrying too much and letting it stress me out.
If you feel like me right now, you need some guidance on opening your mind up to feel more positivity, then you have to keep reading.
Step 1: Recognize negative thoughts
It sounds so simple yet, our cynical selves can be sneaky. Negative thoughts come in different shapes and forms than just being unhappy. Take note of how many times a day you complain, how often you feel yourself worrying or stressing over something, or how often you doubt your abilities. These are all signs that you are not looking at things optimistically. To avoid this, when you wake up in the morning before you even get out of bed, list 5 things you’re grateful for.
Step 2: Release negativity energy
Once you start your day thinking about what you are grateful for you are in an opportune state of mind to release any adverse thoughts or feeling you’ve been harboring. You have to find the power to let go and turn any of those dark, negative thoughts into silver linings. Every situation is temporary, so don’t dwell on anything that is making you frustrated or unhappy.
Step 3: Think like an optimist
Remembeing that every situation has a break in the clouds will have an impact on the way you look at life. Whenever I find myself in a place that is frustrating me or causing me to stress I change my perception of my surroundings. I think to myself, “there is a reason that I am living through this right now”. There is a reason why you are experiencing what you are, at this very moment. Maybe it’s a lesson, maybe it is so you can feel grateful by comparison later, maybe it’s to motivate you to do something better. I don’t know, only you can know the answer to that. Just remember you are exactly where you need to be.
Step 4: Visualization
Visualize the best possible outcome. I hear all the time, “ well I’m a realist so I have to be rational about the outcome”. I use to tell myself this too. It is the biggest excuse and lie that we tell ourselves. We think like this because if we get our hopes up and it doesn’t happen we won’t feel so let down. Only, we still feel let down when bad things happen! When we use this tactic of, “expect the worst” more often than not we will be our own self-fulfilling prophecy. Getting exactly what we didn’t want.
Step 5: Be present with your thoughts and feelings
The best way to destroy negative thoughts is by doing your best to live in the moment and create mindfulness within your life. If you don’t know what this means or how to do that try reading, “Start Living in The Moment Right Now”