I’m enthusiastic, that’s for sure. I also love writing and being part of a conversation, I am a little ADHD and forgetful, but I’m getting side-tracked here. The point is, that I love blogging, connecting with people, and feeling like I am contributing some unique perspective to the world. Even though I feel all of these things towards myself and my work, sometimes I feel like I have imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is when you doubt yourself, your accomplishments, and basically everything you create because at any point you know someone is going to turn around and be like, “you’re so full of shit Carly, you don’t know what it means to be happy, or successful, or positive. Who are you anyways??”
It’s a real fear. The more I blog and share my stories, the more I worry someone will come out-of-the cut and be like “I know what you did last summer, you cried over how much you hated your job and therefore you have no right to tell other people how to find a career they love.” If you did come out of the shadows and say this to me you’d poke all kinds of holes in this whole crazy facade exposing me for what I am, a total loser, trying to blog, all while making a regular 9-5 income and trying to pursue big dreams… and you would be totally right.
This goes through my mind sometimes. I get caught up on this idea that I have no business giving anyone any advice because who am I?? Then I remember you’re soliciting my advice by coming here, so it can’t be all that terrible.
The point is, I have ADHD and ramble on a lot, but also that following your passion is fucking terrifying and can make you feel like a total fraud because whoever said that you, of all people, could do something like this. How do you combat this feeling of inadequacy and fear?
It’s important to have a plan. To make you feel like, “okay this is a goal I can attain. I can definitely do this.” Planning gives you a long-term vision for the year ahead so you can feel less
Uncertainty is scary. Pretty much all of life after you turn 20 and before you turn 30 is full of uncertainty. You’re caught up in this weird space where have no idea what the fuck you’re doing, but you also know you want to do more.
I try to approach uncertainty by kicking it in the face and the only way to kick uncertainty in the face is by planning!
If you want to see how I am planning out 2019 keep reading.
I plan in a pretty 2019 agenda where I can write things down and stick fancy stickers to suggest that I mean business and these deadlines need to be met dammit!
Set your goals
If you can’t read my handwriting, it’s okay, I can’t either. I only know what this says because I wrote it down half an hour ago. Basically I have seven categories and two goals in each category. The categories are; Career, Money, Health, Travel, Education, Manifest, and Blog. The manifest goals are things that probably won’t get accomplished but I write them down anyway just to put the idea out to the universe. I only have 1 right now because I’m saving the second one for something really good.
Give yourself deadlines
I am deadlining myself to launch a paid program this year and now you’re a witness so I’m feeling the pressure already. Are you supposed to be holding me accountable? Or am I holding you accountable to hold me accountable? One of us needs to figure this out or this deadline is never getting met.
Hold yourself accountable
Oh okay, to answer my question above, I guess I am holding myself accountable. I’m looking through this planner and I gave myself a lot of deadlines. Also, I must have a lot of money in 2019 because this plan is starting to look expensive. Am I accountable for the expenses as well?
“Remember you are awesome and go buy something nice at the mall” future me is going to love past me. You are welcome future me I’m only doing things because you deserve it!
Fill up on plenty of inspirational quotes
I am a nut for inspirational quotes. I have a Pinterest board called Daily Motivational Quotes. I always like to put a quote for each week in my planner. Some examples of these are, “
success chicken nuggets.” or my favorite (as pictured 3 photos above, ” Kick Tuesday in the fucking face…that smug bastard”. I also have some that are uplifting and motivational like “happiness is not just a destination it’s a way of life” but I like the funny ones more.
Success to me is keeping it together when I really want to yell at the car in front of me to stop driving like an A-hole or involuntarily roll my eyes at my boss when she gives me another “fun” project. I will celebrate my small success along with my bigger success because I totally deserve it.