“Winners quit fast, quit often, and quit without guilt”
― Seth Godin
At the beginning of this year, I was stressed, overworked, and just overall really hoping for and wanting something better in life. I got tired of wanting things that I couldn’t have.
I’m not the type of person to want something and sit back and wait for it to show up, I needed to take action, I needed to feel like I was doing something to get myself there. Where? I wasn’t even sure. Only that I need to be headed somewhere better. I couldn’t figure out where I was going if I had all my bad habits dragging me down. Self-doubt, lack of commitment, procrastination were clinging on to me like an anchor. The first step was to work on me.
I came to the realization that if I was going to do anything important I’d have to make some changes and get rid of the things holding me back. The podcasts I was listening to were talking about dedication, commitment and spending time on the right things. So I decided that was what I would focus on. Quitting the things that didn't serve me and doing more of the things that did. I would focus my mental energy on and how I could phase out some bad habits. I slowly started to give up some of my biggest time wasters and other procrastinating, unhealthy habits.
1. Watching TV after work
Have you ever thought what you would do after work if you didn’t have cable? The cable was the first thing to go when my bills got too high and I couldn’t afford small luxuries like watching TV. That was fine with me because I always thought of it as a distraction anyway.
When you don’t have TV you tend to get creative figuring out ways to entertain yourself. You might spend more time trying new recipes, going to the gym, or working on your goals and business plans. Imagine all the ideas you might come up with if you weren't so focused on the newest season of GOT.
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My strategy in life was always, wing everything and hope for the best. What’s that quote? “I’m just winging life, eyeliner, everything”. An accurate description of how well I planned things.
While winging it isn’t always a bad strategy, sometimes spontaneity can be a lot of fun, you don’t want to wing everything. If you don’t set goals for yourself and you just keep figuring things out as you go you’ll wind up going in circles and wondering why.
If you’re going to move forward you better have some kind of goal or plan or you’ll hit more walls than you think.
Pushing it off till tomorrow
A born and raised procrastinator, pushing it off till tomorrow is my motto. But guess what happens? Tomorrow never comes because you’ll keep moving the task out until you eventually forget why it was important in the first place.
Do things right now! While you have the time, motivation, and energy to do it. Don’t wait for the right time, don’t wait till your ready, there is no better time than the present.
Caring about what people think
It is hard to get out of the mindset of “but what will people think?” I thought that way and felt that way up until I had the, “well fuck what people think” moment. A moment that I had because of what Cara Braude said to me.
I consulted her about my idea of becoming a blogger. She looked through my website and said, “what are all of these stock photos, where is Carly?”. I told her that I just wanted to be anonymous for a bit. She said to me straight up, “no one will care what you have to say if you aren't you, and if people say ‘oh look Carly’s trying to be a blogger’ then who cares they're right! That is what you're trying to do!” Simple words of wisdom that helped me get over that fear.
Blaming other people
My happiness is my responsibility and no one else's. If I hate my job because my boss drives me crazy I can’t blame my boss. If I interpret her actions in a negative way that's my problem because I allow her to drive me crazy.
You can't expect other people to satisfy you and appeal to your needs. Don't ever expect, demand or assume anything of anyone else because it will only lead to disappointment. Other people can’t let you down if you don’t give them that power. Only you can decide how to interpret the world around you.
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Health damaging habits
This is the first full year I quit smoking. It was one of those things I just had to phase out of my life. I've changed quite a bit and it just is another piece of me that is better left in the past so that I can keep looking on towards the future. I have more respect for my body than to damage it purposefully.
Your health damaging habit might not be smoking but you probably have one. Maybe you don't exercise, you overeat, you eat junk food, you don't sleep enough. Whatever it is, quit if it isn't serving you or your body. Rember to take care of yourself, you are important.
Quitting can be cleansing, especially when quitting bad habits that don't serve you. Part of living life with intention is knowing when to let go and leave old habits in the past. There are so many more things I can quit doing that would benefit me. I am working on myself every day and giving myself credit for the progress I've made. Give yourself permission to celebrate the small accomplishments.